April 16, 2018

I’m Giving A Little Love From My Heart

Posted in Compassion tagged , , , , , , at 12:49 pm by kellyfdennis

pexels-photo-257360.jpegSo, are you having a bad day? Or maybe a mediocre one? Did you and your daughter have a disagreement before she left for school? The car wouldn’t start; when you finally got to work your supervisor said “we need to talk” and the talk wasn’t great. You couldn’t find your favorite pen, the dog peed on your best shoes… UGH! I hate bad days.

For all the bad, I want you to know that you are deserving of good. You are capable, strong, tenacious, fearless, and bold. You know what bad days feel like and you conquer them anyway and go on to face the next day. Do you sometimes feel like giving up? Sure, sometimes the tasks seem insurmountable.

I want you to know that even with all that stuff, you are lovable, lovely, worthy of respect and good caring from those you love. You are smart, kind, caring, and courageous. Even when you’re in your jammies and your hair’s a mess and you haven’t brushed your teeth, you are still an awesome person, waiting to give and receive love and affection.

You, my love, are my hero; courageously encountering your day even though you may struggle with depression, anxiety, an eating disorder, ADHD, have children on the spectrum, are recovering from trauma and abuse.

Now, go and do what you need to do for yourself, to take care of yourself, to love and nurture yourself. Just like you do for everyone else. Shut off the TV, turn off your phone, say “no” to watching the neighbors kids, and just do something lovely for yourself, right here, right now. I want you to take care of yourself. You deserve it.

 

December 28, 2017

Mental Wellness

Posted in Well-being tagged , , , at 12:59 pm by kellyfdennis

winter-road-in-the-mountains-10011173While decreasing the stigma surrounding mental illness in order to create an environment in which individuals believe they can seek out care without judgement is paramount; equally important is understanding how to keep ourselves mentally and physically well (or return to a state of wellness after a mental or physical illness).

The following is a list of contributors to mental (and physical) wellness:

-Exercise. The research shows again and again the importance of regular, moderate exercise in the maintenance of mental wellness.

-Food. Proper nutrition nourishes the brain and there is research to support that certain foods can affect one’s mood state.

-Sleep. This is when our bodies and brains heal and recharge.

-Being in nature. Natural surroundings ease our brain’s fight or flight response and increase the “feel good” chemicals available to us.

-Having a sense of purpose. When we lack a sense of meaning and purpose we can become anxious, depressed, or feel empty and “blah” inside.

-Spirituality. Spirituality is the divinity that dances, and flows as the source and essence of every soul. Spirituality is related to your personal search, to finding greater meaning and purpose in your existence.

-Relationships. Feeling loved and cared for while loving and caring for others.

-Community. A sence of acceptance and belonging.

-Resilience. The ability to “bounce back”.

-Managing distress and eustress. Stressors can be both good and bad, being able to  managing the way they impact or minds and bodies is essential to well-being.

Most of these are “no brainers”. We know what to do, but what gets in the way of us taking good care of ourselves? Sometimes, we don’t believe we deserve the good care; other times we feel overwhelmed by the committment to do so. Try setting an intention in the new year to put more effort into the above list. When the effort seems hard, talk to someone about the “things that get in the way.”

Be Well and Have a Wonderful 2018!

 

November 28, 2017

I’m Giving A Little Love From My Heart

Posted in Compassion tagged , , , , , , at 10:06 pm by kellyfdennis

treeinsun2So, did you have a bad day? Or maybe a mediocre one? Did you and your daughter have a disagreement before she left for school? The car wouldn’t start; when you finally got to work your supervisor said “we need to talk” and the talk wasn’t great. You couldn’t find your favorite pen, the dog peed on your best shoes… UGH! I hate bad days.

For all the bad, I want you to know that you are deserving of good. You are capable, strong, tenacious, fearless, and bold. You know what bad days feel like and you conquer them anyway and go on to face the next day. Do you sometimes feel like giving up? Sure, sometimes the tasks seem insurmountable. Do you sometimes believe that you are the only person on the planet with sense, and wonder what the heck has happened to the rest of us? Yep.

I want you to know that even with all that stuff, you are lovable, lovely, worthy of respect and good caring from those you love. You are smart, kind, caring, and courageous. Even when you’re in your jammies and your hair’s a mess and you haven’t brushed your teeth, you are still an awesome person, waiting to give and receive love and affection.

You, my love, are my hero; courageously encountering your day even though you may struggle with depression, anxiety, an eating disorder, ADHD, have children on the spectrum, are recovering from trauma and abuse. You do what you have to do to take care of your family, your job, your life.

Now, go and do what you need to do for yourself, to take care of yourself, to love and nurture yourself. Just like you do for everyone else. Shut off the TV, turn off your phone, say “no” to watching the neighbors kids, and just do something lovely for yourself, right here, right now. I want you to take care of yourself. You deserve it.

 

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