January 30, 2020

Radical Compassion-Day 10

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Sounds True and Tara Brach present a 10 day radical compassion challenge.

My takeaways today are many. Listening to understand and to connect with the reverence for all lives. Even those lives with whom you strongly disagree! Yikes! Van Jones was persistent in this interview about the ways in which we don’t “see” the other person, we just “see” what they are arguing for or against. Compassion starts with a yearning to understand another’s humanness.

Tara’s meditation today focused on bringing others to mind and seeing our shared vulnerability with them. Those we love, those we’re in conflict with, those we don’t know because they are so different from us, the other beings that inhabit this planet with us and the earth herself. “Cultivating a reverence for all life.”

What a journey! I am so thankful to have made the time for this!

January 29, 2020

Radical Compassion-Day 9

Posted in Uncategorized at 12:57 pm by kellyfdennis

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Sounds True and Tara Brach present a 10 day radical compassion challenge.

Very powerful messages today from Krista Tippett about vulnerability, compassion and love. I adore this quote, “To love someone is to learn the song that is in their heart and to sing it to them when they have forgotten.”-Arne Garborg.  We need to lean into compassion and compassion requires curiosity about others. A willingness to be surprised and learn from them, even if we disagree.

Tara’s meditation was a good reminder. We are so quick to notice the flaws of others. The  meditation focused on the goodness and appreciation of another.

Good Stuff!

January 28, 2020

Radical Compassion-Day 8

Posted in Uncategorized at 1:51 pm by kellyfdennis

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Sounds True and Tara Brach present a 10 day radical compassion challenge.

Some things that popped out today in Tara’s interview with Jon Kabat-Zinn were more of the theme of our interconnectedness and mindfulness needing to have “heart”. When we are “othering” we are not able to be empathetic or compassionate. We are all connected-to each other, to the earth. The concept of mindfulness can become very intellectual or cognitive for  me, so I really appreciated the reminder to pay attention to the feelings associated with mindfulness. Not getting caught up in the feelings, but noticing what happens in the body when engaging in the practice (or all the time, really).

It was great reminder for me to put myself in places where I interact with people who are different from me. Only with proximity can we truly come to understand and befriend others.

Good stuff!

January 27, 2020

Radical Compassion-Day 7

Posted in Uncategorized at 2:03 pm by kellyfdennis

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Sounds True and Tara Brach present a 10 day radical compassion challenge.

I enjoyed the practical way that Sandra Oh described her meditation practice. She acknowledged it taking a long time for her to feel comfortable, but now knowing that she “knows what to do” when feeling afraid or stressed. She focuses on the soles of her feet or “just the next breath” to bring herself to her body and the present moment. When we do that we are taking ourselves out of the trance of ruminating or worrying.

Tara’s meditation “RAIN on Blame”, was powerful. Only when we can recognize what might be going on for another person, what may be behind their behavior, can we truly come from a place of empathy. We still stay present with our own experiences, but we open ourselves up to the experiences of the “other.”

Good Stuff!

January 26, 2020

Radical Compassion-Day 6

Posted in Uncategorized at 5:50 pm by kellyfdennis

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Sounds True and Tara Brach present a 10 day radical compassion challenge.

Today’s interview with Valarie Kaur was vibrant and interesting. What a story she has! Revolutionary Love…interesting. She has overcome challenges that I can never dream of. And that made me take pause. Then Tara’s meditation. We all have stories, that other people know nothing about. I loved the story she told about the guy that was going through anger management and learning mindfulness. I won’t spoil it for you, but yes, we all could benefit from pausing and wondering about what the stories the people around us carry.

I will say that if this is your first time doing this kind of meditation-tonglen, it may have been difficult. I remember it was for me the first time I did it. The trick is to pay attention to your bodily reactions and to return to the breath or sounds, or whatever your anchor is so you don’t get overwhelmed in trying to take in the other person’s pain. A challenge to say the least, but incredible nonetheless.

What’s your experience on this journey?

January 25, 2020

Radical Compassion-Day 5

Posted in Uncategorized at 12:58 pm by kellyfdennis

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Sounds True and Tara Brach present a 10 day radical compassion challenge.

Wow! I really connected with the meditation today, compassion toward people we know. I especially liked the 3 capacities of being present:  Genuine Interest, Deep Listening, and Feeling With. I want to practice this more in my daily life!

The interview with Dacher Keltner, the director of the Greater Good Science Center. The research he mentions about how our brains are actually wired for compassion and we get in the way, was very eye opening.

I hope you get a chance to listen today!

January 24, 2020

Radical Compassion-Day 4

Posted in Uncategorized at 12:38 pm by kellyfdennis

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Sounds True and Tara Brach present a 10 day radical compassion challenge.

Today I’d like to offer another perspective. In the interview with Liz, she talks about writing a letter to yourself about what you would like to hear. In my years working with people, I’ve learned that they find this exercise very challenging. The homework today is something that I’ve done in the past and found helpful, since I’m a God follower, is to write a letter from the merciful God in whom I believe. When I write a letter to myself from the forgiving God, I can hear the tender words of encouragement and love. So, if you’re a God follower, maybe try this idea, if you find the letter challenging.

Tara’s meditation made a good point, self blame doesn’t really force us to change. This meditation helped me to take time to investigate my own self blame and begin the process of forgiveness.

What’s your experience like?

January 23, 2020

Radical Compassion-Day 3

Posted in Uncategorized at 2:51 pm by kellyfdennis

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Sounds True and Tara Brach present a 10 day radical compassion challenge.

Kristen Neff emphasized the three components of self-compassion: Kindness, Common Humanity, and Mindfulness. I resonated with the importance of not skipping any of the three or our experience will not be beneficial.

Another thing that popped out for  me was her idea that “people hold onto hate, because once hate is gone, they’ll feel the pain and they don’t want to feel it.” Makes sense to me why hating someone is “easier” that forgiving and letting go.

I have done Tara’s RAIN meditation many times. Today was especially helpful to remember the “allow” part, instead of rushing right to nurture.

Good Stuff!!

January 22, 2020

Radical Compassion-Day 2

Posted in Uncategorized at 12:10 pm by kellyfdennis

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Sounds True and Tara Brach present a 10 day radical compassion challenge.

Even though the interview with Dan Siegel was a little long, it was well worth the time. Chock full of stuff, I can’t even summarize adequately! I understand, now, my experience with some of my medical providers and their seemingly lack of empathy. The other thing that really popped out for  me was that our body is like an antenna for our emotional experience and  the mind tries to make sense of it all. If we are differentiated, we can separate out what is “our stuff” to deal with and what is the other person’s responsibility. If not, we become overwhelmed and flooded because we over identify with the other person’s suffering.

I also loved the PART acronym: Presence, Attuning, Resonance, and Trust. These are the essential ingredients in relationships not only with others, but with ourselves and this earth we inhabit.

Tara’s guided meditation was very nurturing for me. Just what I  needed today! Can’t wait for day 3!

January 21, 2020

Radical Compassion-Day 1

Posted in Uncategorized at 12:12 pm by kellyfdennis

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Sounds True and Tara Brach present a 10 day radical compassion challenge.

I connected with the thought that we get stuck in our negative narrative in our heads and become preoccupied, anxious, sad, etc. Tara’s meditation today emphasized taking a “pause” to connect to yourself. The challenge is to do that 3 times today. I’m sure I’ll have lots of time to practice!

Maria Shriver was the featured speaker. So many thoughts that I connected with, but one in particular is that “healing our world starts with healing each one of us.”

For those of you participating, what rose to the surface as important for you?

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