June 26, 2017

I Can’t Say “I love and accept myself”. An EFT follow up.

Posted in Uncategorized at 11:53 am by kellyfdennis

Many EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) scripts use the phrase “Even though_______, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.” But what if those words just don’t seem to want to come out of your mouth? Many people struggle with loving and accepting themselves. They have negative core beliefs about value and worth that are very deep.

There are a few ways to change up the phrase and begin to work on loving and accepting yourself at the same time. First of all, even if you don’t believe it 100%, maybe some part of you hopes it will be true someday. In that case, it’s ok to say it anyway and maybe you’ll get closer to believing it. Or you could try substituting a phrase, such as “Even though________, I’m in the process of learning to deeply and completely love and accept myself.” Or, “Even though____________, I would like to deeply and completely love and accept myself.” Or you can change it up completely, “It would be nice if I could love and/or accept myself a little bit.” You get the idea.

The other suggestion I have is to use EFT to begin to change this negative core belief of “I’m not valuable enough to love and accept myself” or whatever negative core belief you  have that is getting in the way of loving and accepting yourself. Begin by identifying the core belief and then rate how strongly you believe it on a scale of 1-10 (1 being very little, 10 being very much). Then take a deep breath in and begin to tap.

Karate Chop: “Even though I can’t say I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I am open to seeing this differently.”

Top of Head: “I don’t like myself very much.”

Eyebrow: “I would like to change that.”

Side of the Eye: “It’s hard to believe I’m valuable enough to love.”

Under the Eye: “I am open to seeing some value in myself.”

Chin: “But it’s hard to see it right now.”

Collarbone: “I am doing my best to heal.”

Under the Arm: “That’s something I can appreciate and value.”

Top of the Head: “I like the thought that I might someday be able to completely and deeply love and accept myself.”

Take a deep breath in, rate your level of belief in the core belief now. Continue tapping on this throughout the week until you begin to see your rating in the belief of the core belief go down, if even just a little bit.

So, if you noticed, there’s a pattern to the statements: “I can’t”, “but I’m trying”; ” I can’t”, “but I’m trying.”  Feel free to substitute statements that work for you with this back and forth method while you’re tapping.

Keep on tapping!

Be Well and Have a Wonderful Day!



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